Written by: Beau DeCourcy
Aaron and I write a lot about the numerous ways in which one may move toward a better existence, but reading about making changes and actually beginning is far different. The reluctance to change affects us all mostly because change is uncomfortable and takes a good deal of work. Knowing what one can expect during the process of the changes we advocate may help begin your movement.
So you have been reading the blog and may like some of what we’re saying. Maybe in the beginning it was casual reading, but somewhere a shift occurred in your thought process. An idea resonated in your mind bringing in just a subtle hint of motivation, distaste for the status quo, and yearning for change. So what can you expect when beginning the journey and movement toward a better existence of your own? The following 5 experiences take into account nutritional adjustments toward whole unprocessed foods, movement and fitness methods that are fractal and playful, methods in simplifying your life to reduce stress, and doing what activities make YOU happy.
What you can expect:
1. It will be inconvenient to start:
Real change is never easy, but the harder it is the better the pay off. Eating, moving, sleeping, and most importantly, thinking differently than most of society is going to create a few headaches. But this will get easier day-by-day. You’ll find acceptable food choices are harder to come by and you may feel left out at times while others indulge. Check out the article Reconnect with Food. It may help you realign with a personal connection with food as opposed to a social connection.
2. It’s going to piss people off:
Doctors, friends, coworkers and even grandma may get a little irritated that you’re not eating the cookies, running the treadmill, bundling up in cool weather, and trading in your mornings for the cost of late night socializing.
There are a lot of misconceptions about all aspects health out there and your going to challenge most of them. Aaron’s post here explains this obstacle best.
3. You’re going to question and doubt:
We all start strong, but in times of stress and emotional weakness we may begin to question what we are doing. Everyone else seems to be getting so much enjoyment out of their lifestyle. The cookies begin to look better and better, that 62″ TV on sale can mind numbingly lull you into social distraction with full HD quality. But remember that was where you once were and you decided to make a change for a reason because all the junk food, possessions and intoxicated weekends weren’t doing it anymore. The grind and relentless normalcy dulled your mind and quieted your drive for an exceptional life. In our first post, Comfort Zoning, we addressed this phenomena. Give it a read or re-read.
4. You will change. And with change comes new responsibilities:
Despite the ever present adversity and disdain from your environment, you stuck with it. Adapted as the human animal you are is designed to do, and you changed. It’s over right? All downhill from here? Well, in a way, yes. The cookies, TV’s, treadmills and 2 am pizza binges preceding a sunny Saturday squandered on the couch watching reruns, no longer will appeal to you, and that’s something beautiful, but in will move a new challenge: watching it all happen around you and realizing you can only control yourself.
You will see life from a different point of view: the Ancestral Context. It will be too easy to want to check out from society, move to a remote area and prepare for the apocalypse, but it isn’t that easy. You will frustratingly realize that you are still dependent and depended on by those who choose to live a different way. Take it from me, you will lose your voice, sleep and even threaten the low-stress lifestyle you created to feverishly defend your new existence. Don’t do it. Speak to those who will listen, and lead by example. Foster a Strong Reality, and continue on.
5. You will surprise yourself:
Having begun my journey four years ago, you’d think I would have plateaued and figured it all out, but I still surprise myself nearly everyday. Increasing your capacity for life breeds endless possibilities for improvement. The fractal landscape of existence is an exciting journey. Peaks, valleys and plateaus are all non-linear and progress becomes multidimensional.
After engaging in your movement to a better existence you will realize that who you are depends not on where you are in life, or even where you intend to go, but rather on the wealth of confidence, capacity, and desire to exist exceptionally well in any peak, valley or plateau. Embracing uncertainty and prospering through risk is a skill you will grow with time.
Please consider each of these expectations as you begin your movement. They are not meant to discourage anyone because there are no real qualifications or criteria to start. If your thinking about it, then begin. You will struggle, overcome and “cheat” as some call it, but all that really matters is that you remain internally driven. As Aaron says in this post: “Don’t forget to begin.”
What is your experience with significant life change? What fears are preventing you from beginning.